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  • Scape_Goat_Token's Avatar
    126 posts since Jun '04
    • So as stated in topic title.

      I don't feel contended with these qualities, a lot people tell me that it's already fortunate. Sometimes, I feel exclusive, sometimes, I feel out of place. Sometimes, I feel like a loser. I don't know.  

      According to people, (and after some introspection)

      I have high IQ. To the extent where I can don't study much and achieve not bad results. I'm taking Alevels, but never really studied in my life before.

      Highly philosophical and deep. I think too much, sometimes. I always define this define that and I'm always thinking about sometime.

      I'm the type that will go online to read on random articles (wiki and some others) about history, science and stuff like that. I read these for pure pleasure and knowledge

      I have almost near photographic memory. (though not exactly very evidently).

      I listen to classical music. I read up a lot on music history and periods and I learn music theory. plays advanced repertoire on the piano and I don't listen to pop or "normal" music. I play 4 hours of piano/day, and will still do okay in school work eventually and have a decent social life.

      I'm considered fit. Last year my 2.4km run was almost 9 flat.

      Not exactly part of me, but I was born in a relatively rich family. Landed house, got car to drive me whereever I want to go. I only spend like 10% of my pocket money as I have nothing much to buy.

      I know many are going to ask why is this even in aunt agony. But the fact is

      I don't seem to be happy at all. I use to believe money can't buy important stuff and the world's most important things can't be bought with money. And so I set out to gather all the stuff that is more than superficial. Knowledge, skills. I've been trying my best to accquire them, I am an anti-materialististic person. But right now I'm at a lost, these skills, these abilities, do not exactly make me happy.

      I don't really have a good love life. Don't get interested in girls easily. But yet sometimes, I feel lonely.

      Am I the classic spoilt uncontended brat?

  • Uncertain's Avatar
    1,033 posts since Jan '07
    • U are not content because u haven't found something that u deeply wanted to pursue.

       

      Warren Buffett pursued his investment dream relentlessly and now he is successful. He is both rich and content with life.

       

      Dude, u have everything that anyone would have crave for so i seriously doubt u are in any way less fortunate than guys out there who are fighting over money for survival.

  • rain-coat's Avatar
    492 posts since Sep '07
    • damn! how i wish i was like you...smart fit and rich...you need a purpose in life which is something you cant rush to find...take it slow, you will find it one day

  • Karma88's Avatar
    1,073 posts since Mar '08
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    318 posts since May '05
  • xavier1979's Avatar
    6,273 posts since Aug '02
    • Seems like you lead a high life.

      If you can't find satisfaction, try living a week in the other exterme - barely making ends meet (restricting yourself to no more than $10 a day), taking the public transport, listening to mainstream pop, etc.

  • Fallen...
    the Bear's Avatar
    126,647 posts since Feb '01
  • domonkassyu's Avatar
    1,137 posts since Sep '07
    • cuz u dont know where to shop thats y u think $ cant buy impt stuff..materially u r rich..how about spiritually??mentally u have high iq,pornographic memory..yada yada yada..but having intelligence do not equate having wisdom..mayb u can build on that.. and like others who mentioned..go get a hobby..go do some volunteer work too..while at it..donate some $$ to me also lehz..hehe

  • ChiBet's Avatar
    924 posts since Apr '08
    • I sounds like you are ashame of your lifestyle. 

      It happens to the rich all the time after seeing others struggling to make ends meet.

      Do some charity work, it may help.

      Do not donate $$$ to charity but volunteer to do charity work. Try not to beg on the streets also like those flag day events.

      seriously, i do not know what singapore education system has become, teaching their students to beg on the streets and calling it a charity event.

      Edited by ChiBet 29 May `08, 10:10AM
  • Fallen...
    the Bear's Avatar
    126,647 posts since Feb '01
    • Originally posted by domonkassyu:

      cuz u dont know where to shop thats y u think $ cant buy impt stuff..materially u r rich..how about spiritually??mentally u have high iq,pornographic memory..yada yada yada..but having intelligence do not equate having wisdom..mayb u can build on that.. and like others who mentioned..go get a hobby..go do some volunteer work too..while at it..donate some $$ to me also lehz..hehe


      uhh... pornographic memory?? omg.png

      teeth.png

  • is.. Cockpuncher !
    BadzMaro's Avatar
    23,171 posts since Apr '04
    • Feel empty hor..

      having everything is like having nothing. All that money to get more money and then ?

      I think u thirst for a purpose. Go and do things u never done before. On top of doing what u do now , u can do more. Attend events , charities like some say , associations and then socialise u meet more people. Maybe from there u can meet other like minded people.

      Elevate your social status and circle as u go. You wont be so empty. U gotta have purpose and a plan. Maybe u still young and dunno do what, go where , with who.

      It'll pass ... that emptiness.

  • BotaHead's Avatar
    48 posts since Mar '08
    • All those qualities you have actually wont make u happy, in fact I think they are not a blessing. U are rich u don’t have to work for a living, u have good memory u don’t have to study hard to pass your exams. This will not only make u lazy, they will also make your life boring.

       

      U see a lot of pple around us. They only want to make other pple happy. Be it their friends, their parent. How many of them actually want to make themselves happy? I guess not many. Being happy is like doing a quest, u need to put in efforts to seek.

       

      Only yourself is responsible for your own happiness, nobody else is. So, make yourself happy now. U can sing yourself a song, tell yourself that u are handsome Listen to beautiful music like Mozart’s - Symphony No. 40 or Mozart’s - nachtmusik

       

      Treat yourself like the girl u want to woo and start wooing yourself. Bring yourself to a posh restaurant and enjoy the wine and dine. Go buy yourself a gift, or bring yourself to a place with nice serenity to look at the beautiful sunset

       

       

      Edited by BotaHead 29 May `08, 10:59AM
  • kcockicht's Avatar
    682 posts since Sep '07
    • TS need to go hungry and poor for a while. live and earn marnie for himself and feed himself. if he can survive without any parent marnie paying off for his shelter needs and food livelihood then come here write.

       

      u r intelligent and educated u may seem better off than others but one thing u lose out to many others is can u fend for yourself and not depend on your little bit of marnie parents have?

       

      u r not happy because u hav no excitement in your life. u need to excite yourself by going through the worries and efforts of working and making a living on your own.

       

      also ifu r bored you can help your maid clean the hose window panes and sweep the floor. dont forget to clean your faters' car after u drive it. drive carefully please. drink dont drive.

       

      complete u alevel tehn go U. the real challenges lies in U. if can go overseas. you are not even drving at the highway yet yet u seems like you are unbreatable.

  • gunner77's Avatar
    13,303 posts since Apr '06
  • domonkassyu's Avatar
    1,137 posts since Sep '07
    • the best way to learn about the value of $ is for you not to have any..u have high iq that dont require much studyin is a blessing.provided u dont get complacent.there is no end to learning. if you really want a challenge, go research in depth.not jus skim through. ponder what you read and not just read for fun.

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    Yunhaier's Avatar
    7,872 posts since Apr '01
    • Originally posted by Scape_Goat_Token:

      So as stated in topic title.

      I don't feel contended with these qualities, a lot people tell me that it's already fortunate. Sometimes, I feel exclusive, sometimes, I feel out of place. Sometimes, I feel like a loser. I don't know.  

      According to people, (and after some introspection)

      I have high IQ. To the extent where I can don't study much and achieve not bad results. I'm taking Alevels, but never really studied in my life before.

      Highly philosophical and deep. I think too much, sometimes. I always define this define that and I'm always thinking about sometime.

      I'm the type that will go online to read on random articles (wiki and some others) about history, science and stuff like that. I read these for pure pleasure and knowledge

      I have almost near photographic memory. (though not exactly very evidently).

      I listen to classical music. I read up a lot on music history and periods and I learn music theory. plays advanced repertoire on the piano and I don't listen to pop or "normal" music. I play 4 hours of piano/day, and will still do okay in school work eventually and have a decent social life.

      I'm considered fit. Last year my 2.4km run was almost 9 flat.

      Not exactly part of me, but I was born in a relatively rich family. Landed house, got car to drive me whereever I want to go. I only spend like 10% of my pocket money as I have nothing much to buy.

      I know many are going to ask why is this even in aunt agony. But the fact is

      I don't seem to be happy at all. I use to believe money can't buy important stuff and the world's most important things can't be bought with money. And so I set out to gather all the stuff that is more than superficial. Knowledge, skills. I've been trying my best to accquire them, I am an anti-materialististic person. But right now I'm at a lost, these skills, these abilities, do not exactly make me happy.

      I don't really have a good love life. Don't get interested in girls easily. But yet sometimes, I feel lonely.

      Am I the classic spoilt uncontended brat?

      icon_arrow.gif The reason for your emptiness is because you fail to transcend beyond the physical and psychological realm - you are spiritually void and you are not emotionally fulfilled as well.

      You have no cause to live for. Nothing.

      Only when you seek a remarkable cause to expend your time, effort and energy, would you then find an answer to your conundrum. icon_idea.gif

      Cheers

  • ShrodingersCat's Avatar
    6,360 posts since Jul '04
    • Originally posted by Scape_Goat_Token:


      I don't really have a good love life. Don't get interested in girls easily. But yet sometimes, I feel lonely.


      after reading ur post...

       

      I think your biggest issue is probably self centredness that's why you feel lonely and discontented.

       

      How long can a world with one person only feels fulfilled?

       

       

  • cApitaland's Avatar
    4,419 posts since Sep '05
    • I suggest that you pick up a sport or hobby that interests you and strive to be the best in that field. If you are talented as you say, you will rise quickly and find worthy opponents who will help you sustain your interest and ignite your passion.

  • FrozernFire's Avatar
    509 posts since Feb '05
    • when i read your description of yourself, it was also like reading about myself, take away the piano part and increase the 2.4 timing to 10+min. i suppose you are in j2? i'm in j1. you look for happiness in your skills, which i understand. it can be very rewarding to just go on wiki or any other website to read about stuff and gain more knowledge. the piano is also a good way (i quit piano last year, it just didn't interest me enough).

      however, all these can only bring you to a certain level of happiness. it is not through these skills where i get my happiness, it is from my friends and other activities. you have not mentioned friends, maybe you have overlooked them? i was also a facilitator for a life science workshop for sec 3 students for 2 days. it ended yesterday, and it was very rewarding for me, being able to guide them and such.

      perhaps you have been looking in the wrong areas for your happiness. you mentioned that you play the piano for 4h a day. not to put it down, but it is a very long time to spend alone. perhaps staying around in sch more, hanging around with people might bring more joy?

      i think i can understand your character, i used to want to go all out to gain knowledge and skills, but obviously, it wasn't giving me contentment. look in other areas

  • guanyu77's Avatar
    13 posts since May '08
    • Originally posted by Yunhaier:

      icon_arrow.gif The reason for your emptiness is because you fail to transcend beyond the physical and psychological realm - you are spiritually void and you are not emotionally fulfilled as well.

      You have no cause to live for. Nothing.

      Only when you seek a remarkable cause to expend your time, effort and energy, would you then find an answer to your conundrum. icon_idea.gif

      Cheers


      Hi TS,

      Personally, I am very similar to you when it comes to acquiring of knowledge though I am very much older than you I guess. That is why I can understand what you are going through right now as I had been through the same path too.

      Like what Yunhaier has mentioned, you might be spiritually void right now. I am not sure if you are a Buddhist but you can try reading some postings in ~Buddhism: Wisdom Bliss ~ forum in sgforums. There are alot of meaningful postings about the emptiness you are going through. I personally is not a Buddhist, yet, but like to read the postings in this forum. It gives great peace to one's mind.

      I am also not sure if you are a Chinese, as watching educational TV shows by 于丹<<庄子>>心得 that is currently showing in U channel might help. You can also watch it on www.tudou.com. The full list of the educational program can be found at this web page http://lishouli.blog.hexun.com/7901086_d.html. You just need to cut and paste the title of each series at tudou.com and search for the show. The program talks about ZhuangZi's philosophy of life which contains wisdom from Buddhism and Taoism. It has helped me alot and I do hope it can help you too.

      Hope you can find your true meaning of life soon! :) Cheer up!

  • Miracles&Prophecies's Avatar
    855 posts since Dec '07
    • Originally posted by Scape_Goat_Token:

      So as stated in topic title.

      I don't feel contended with these qualities, a lot people tell me that it's already fortunate. Sometimes, I feel exclusive, sometimes, I feel out of place. Sometimes, I feel like a loser. I don't know.  

      According to people, (and after some introspection)

      I have high IQ. To the extent where I can don't study much and achieve not bad results. I'm taking Alevels, but never really studied in my life before.

      Highly philosophical and deep. I think too much, sometimes. I always define this define that and I'm always thinking about sometime.

      I'm the type that will go online to read on random articles (wiki and some others) about history, science and stuff like that. I read these for pure pleasure and knowledge

      I have almost near photographic memory. (though not exactly very evidently).

      I listen to classical music. I read up a lot on music history and periods and I learn music theory. plays advanced repertoire on the piano and I don't listen to pop or "normal" music. I play 4 hours of piano/day, and will still do okay in school work eventually and have a decent social life.

      I'm considered fit. Last year my 2.4km run was almost 9 flat.

      Not exactly part of me, but I was born in a relatively rich family. Landed house, got car to drive me whereever I want to go. I only spend like 10% of my pocket money as I have nothing much to buy.

      I know many are going to ask why is this even in aunt agony. But the fact is

      I don't seem to be happy at all. I use to believe money can't buy important stuff and the world's most important things can't be bought with money. And so I set out to gather all the stuff that is more than superficial. Knowledge, skills. I've been trying my best to accquire them, I am an anti-materialististic person. But right now I'm at a lost, these skills, these abilities, do not exactly make me happy.

      I don't really have a good love life. Don't get interested in girls easily. But yet sometimes, I feel lonely.

      Am I the classic spoilt uncontended brat?

      You are lucky that at a young age that you realize that money canot buy you the most important things in life. It sounds that you already have a passion. That is you like to read about stuffs. Why don't you buy books on the topic which interest you like history or anything or read religious stuffs just for the sake of seeking knowledge.

      If you want the most important things in life I suggest you go for a spiritual quest. Only God can truly makes us happy literally. We can only have outworldy peace from God. Peace that is so overwhelming that it gives you joy. Peace that would make anyone feel richer than Mr. Gates LOL. I had been given such peace but unfortunately lost it due to my attachment to a particular sin. I hope you may find the peace that God promised to anyone who follows Him. And you could experience spiritual 'gifts' as well. You would be surprised on what you thought imposssible. The world is larger than you think.

      Edited by Miracles&Prophecies 30 May `08, 7:36AM
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    • topis starter can try to lick his own cok. if he can bend and reach and suk his own cok he champion no horse run

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