when he says he need time replied by de_middle @ Wed, 15 Oct 2008 15:52:25 +0800

de_middle — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 15:52:25 +0800

Originally posted by jusagerl:

you mean.. he is not worth the wait.. or im not worthy to wait for him??

move on, doesn't matter whose worthy or not. learn from this & not repeat it again...

when he says he need time replied by jusagerl @ Wed, 15 Oct 2008 13:51:28 +0800

jusagerl — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 13:51:28 +0800

yup.. its over...

but im ohk now. (=

when he says he need time replied by arieswilson @ Sat, 11 Oct 2008 11:22:07 +0800

arieswilson — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 11:22:07 +0800

sorry to say this, jusagerl....

but somehow, i feel you asked for it in a way.

i think you need to mellow down a little and give in a little more in your next relationship.

don't always try to win in petty squabbles or quarrels. the more you try to win in these petty things of little value, the more you stand to lose on the more important things in life.

if you really want to win, win in life's bigger things..... fo example, winning people's hearts and trust?

and giving in appropriately is also a way of winning.

all the best in your next relationship. this one's over. so, please more on ya.

cheers! :D

wilson

when he says he need time replied by jusagerl @ Fri, 10 Oct 2008 23:01:23 +0800

jusagerl — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 23:01:23 +0800

i wont do any first move now.. if he wants he will be the one making the move..

right now, im trying to concentrate on forgetting about him rather waiting for him. the only difficult part is when im trying to move on, thats when he starts popping out of the blue....

duno wads his purpose. im away in sg rite now.. so i hope this few days will help me to forget.

when he says he need time replied by flyingmonkey @ Fri, 10 Oct 2008 06:43:18 +0800

flyingmonkey — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 06:43:18 +0800

Why are some people just so presumptious that she should 'get a better guy' or that the guy is at fault? It could just really be because he needs time or space from this relationship.

There are girls who ask for the same things too either during or at the end of the relationship as well. So is it the girl's fault or should the guy 'get a better girl'?

Can't stand how some people put feminism to such a farce.

Anyway jusagerl, it may really be case of him needing some time from this relationship and cool off. Probably you and him could really use the time to think whether you guys are really meant for each other. Or are you just clinging on because you are scared of moving on.

Of course maybe you should check again with him after a while whether he still has feelings for you. If he really has decided by then to be 'out' of this relationship, maybe you should let go too.

It's all still guessing from what I see at the moment so maybe just wait a while and then try to talk to him again. Talking to him may not necessarily mean getting back together with him, but at least maybe you both might know better where you guys stand.

when he says he need time replied by candyx3o @ Thu, 09 Oct 2008 15:37:48 +0800

candyx3o — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 15:37:48 +0800

Oo. Haha, okay then. Good luck making the right decision, alright ? All the best. :)

when he says he need time replied by jusagerl @ Thu, 09 Oct 2008 14:34:04 +0800

jusagerl — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 14:34:04 +0800

haha.. ohk.. was thinking abt it too wen u said on ur post abt major exams.. cosh.. my fren is way over skul period..

when he says he need time replied by candyx3o @ Thu, 09 Oct 2008 14:07:00 +0800

candyx3o — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 14:07:00 +0800

Mel is the guy's name ? Then it's not the same person. :)

when he says he need time replied by jusagerl @ Thu, 09 Oct 2008 13:11:48 +0800

jusagerl — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 13:11:48 +0800

well.. dats wad im doing.. im flying off tonite.. e weird part is.. he msg me on msn to take care on my trip... out of the blue.. i heard from him after i already am trying to move on...

guys think differently than girls.. so perhaps he is just saying it as a friend.. well....

when he says he need time replied by aHGer^83 @ Thu, 09 Oct 2008 11:48:38 +0800

aHGer^83 — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 11:48:38 +0800

Originally posted by jusagerl:

well.. cant do anything ah..

but what i dont understand is why does he still kept on reading my blog.......

if he really needed time away from me... why must he check up on me...

gerl, he want read, let him read lor.... my ex also still reading my blog, looking at my frenster/facebook/email

when he says he need time replied by jusagerl @ Thu, 09 Oct 2008 11:40:42 +0800

jusagerl — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 11:40:42 +0800

wad do u mean play hard to get? who?

when he says he need time replied by Hanagata @ Thu, 09 Oct 2008 10:13:03 +0800

Hanagata — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 10:13:03 +0800

play hard to get?

when he says he need time replied by jusagerl @ Thu, 09 Oct 2008 10:08:25 +0800

jusagerl — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 10:08:25 +0800

hmm.. his name is mel.. wads ur bf name??

when he says he need time replied by troubledme99 @ Thu, 09 Oct 2008 02:50:16 +0800

troubledme99 — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 02:50:16 +0800

Originally posted by fairlady_xoxo:

Its payback time~

Yeh. Love this term.

when he says he need time replied by dumbdumb! @ Thu, 09 Oct 2008 00:49:30 +0800

dumbdumb! — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 00:49:30 +0800

hmm. my advice is.. learn what went wrong in ur previous relationship before stepping into the next one. u might be bringing in old baggages.

the problem could be you're not reasonable etc.

when he says he need time replied by candyx3o @ Thu, 09 Oct 2008 00:43:05 +0800

candyx3o — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 00:43:05 +0800

Why don't you tell me your friend's name instead.

when he says he need time replied by jusagerl @ Wed, 08 Oct 2008 21:15:02 +0800

jusagerl — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 21:15:02 +0800

hmm.. hope u dun mind if i ask wads ur bf name? cosh ur story seems familiar wid my fren too..

when he says he need time replied by candyx3o @ Wed, 08 Oct 2008 18:38:14 +0800

candyx3o — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 18:38:14 +0800

I don't have advice to give, but I'm just sharing what I went through, if you'd care to read. Almost 7 months ago, similarly, I initiated a break with my boyfriend because of some insignificant squabbles. I agree with some of the posts here; he probably let go because I used a break up as the solution more than once. During that period of time, I really regretted. But there was nothing I could do; because unlike you, he gave me a straight 'no' for an answer. So it was all over.

I did, however, keep my options open. I went out with another guy for about 2 months. But I ended that relationship because firstly, I felt that he did not respect me much, and secondly, it was because I realised what I was doing was wrong; I went out with someone I did not return romantic feelings for, probably to try to forget about my ex.

Okay, so here's the weird (I don't know how to explain it, so I'll just settle for 'weird') thing. Just about 2-3 weeks ago, my ex-boyfriend (the first guy of course), told me that he still liked me. At that time, I didn't know what to do. I even doubted it and thought that it was a prank, because it was just on msn. Anyway, I now know that it was really him, because I clarified it with him. However, he wouldn't do anything else; he even sound like he didn't tell me anything (he wants me to take the initiative to patch stuff up, I think). And of course, only after my major exams.

So, well, I'm just sharing this because your problem seems similar to mine. However, I've been through more after the break, so I can without a doubt say that he's still the guy I truly love. For this, I'm willing to wait. Well, for now and the near future, I still am. :)

when he says he need time replied by jusagerl @ Wed, 08 Oct 2008 10:57:57 +0800

jusagerl — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 10:57:57 +0800

well.. cant do anything ah..

but what i dont understand is why does he still kept on reading my blog.......

if he really needed time away from me... why must he check up on me...

when he says he need time replied by Midlusionz @ Tue, 07 Oct 2008 21:02:41 +0800

Midlusionz — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 21:02:41 +0800

It's good TS has decided to move on.. No point waiting.

when he says he need time replied by aHGer^83 @ Tue, 07 Oct 2008 20:31:41 +0800

aHGer^83 — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 20:31:41 +0800

Originally posted by jusagerl:

i cannot cry anymore ah.. i want to cry oso no tears left.. hahaha

... ill just let the time do the healing..

its been 3 wks mah... whtever will be will be den just let be..

it's actually good that u think this way now.

be happy!

when he says he need time replied by rokkie @ Tue, 07 Oct 2008 14:30:09 +0800

rokkie — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 14:30:09 +0800

it's totally a good thing for people don't match each other break up

when he says he need time replied by jusagerl @ Tue, 07 Oct 2008 14:27:38 +0800

jusagerl — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 14:27:38 +0800

i cannot cry anymore ah.. i want to cry oso no tears left.. hahaha

... ill just let the time do the healing..

its been 3 wks mah... whtever will be will be den just let be..

when he says he need time replied by aHGer^83 @ Tue, 07 Oct 2008 14:03:04 +0800

aHGer^83 — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 14:03:04 +0800

Originally posted by jusagerl:

hmm.. i get yunhaier point... thanx.

i think i should stop waiting now..

yeah.. yun's post.. hinted me on smtng.. i tink i shld stop too....

jusagerl, go ahead and get upset n cry.... u will feel better after that...=)

do try to talk to some one u feel close.. mother, siblings, father, frens...

but after getting sad, perk urself up and be strong again =)

like i said, without man, u won't die.

when he says he need time replied by jusagerl @ Tue, 07 Oct 2008 13:57:03 +0800

jusagerl — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 13:57:03 +0800

hmm.. i get yunhaier point... thanx.

i think i should stop waiting now..

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