hi. i am a girl who has been visiting this forum regularly. decided to come and post about my troubles..

i am a bigger build girl and i am below average looks. from young, i have always been bullied and called names such as 'ugly' etc.

from then on, i have never ever had confidence in myself. especially when talking to attractive girls or guys as i feel inferior to them. no idea how to improve myself..

whenever i see them, i feel that i don't belong to this world, and like the world is cut out for smaller build people..

can someone tell me how to gain confidence in myself?

hi hopeless,

if you're dissatisfied with the way you look, then change it. we're not living in medieval times. there are plenty of plain looking women who carry themselves well and with confidence with the right grooming.

you're big in build, then slim down. diet. buy uZap. exercise. liposuction. surgery whatever. when you look around you, there are many attractive people out there, men, women, tall short slim toned etc, plenty of them. one will surpass the other. eventually all are the same. looks will fade. what separates one from the other is what really matters. chin up girlie, and get cracking.

 

Originally posted by hopeless_:

hi. i am a girl who has been visiting this forum regularly. decided to come and post about my troubles..

i am a bigger build girl and i am below average looks. from young, i have always been bullied and called names such as 'ugly' etc.

from then on, i have never ever had confidence in myself. especially when talking to attractive girls or guys as i feel inferior to them. no idea how to improve myself..

whenever i see them, i feel that i don't belong to this world, and like the world is cut out for smaller build people..

can someone tell me how to gain confidence in myself?

You can come in and repost again with your main nick and find yourself a real boyfriend in sgforums.

Plenty around, take your pick.

Originally posted by soleachip:

hi hopeless,

if you're dissatisfied with the way you look, then change it. we're not living in medieval times. there are plenty of plain looking women who carry themselves well and with confidence with the right grooming.

you're big in build, then slim down. diet. buy uZap. exercise. liposuction. surgery whatever. when you look around you, there are many attractive people out there, men, women, tall short slim toned etc, plenty of them. one will surpass the other. eventually all are the same. looks will fade. what separates one from the other is what really matters. chin up girlie, and get cracking.

 

great post!

Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

It's not that you're "ugly", it's just that people have not learnt to appreciate you. Do you know that women that're generally bigger in size are preferred over petite women in ancient China? The Chinese believed that having a bigger body (hence a bigger set of hips) is vital for childbirth.

Apparently, beauty deviated so much that it has become a norm for one to be stick-like in order to be classified as a 'beauty'.

I recommend you watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OXf8fr0Kp3Q.

TS, preoccupy yourself with something meaningful, that'll keep your mind off whatever isnt so pleasant.

if u tink u're a bigger build den train n lose weight or wadever. if u tink u're ugly start to learn to dress up n learn to put nice make up.

 

as the saying , there's no ugly women only lazy women

Originally posted by icyboiz:

if u tink u're a bigger build den train n lose weight or wadever. if u tink u're ugly start to learn to dress up n learn to put nice make up.

 

as the saying , there's no ugly women only lazy women

whoever said that hasnt seen enough women =D

Originally posted by HyperionDCZ:

whoever said that hasnt seen enough women =D

true, dressing up won't transform u into a super hot gal

but dat's not the pt, u still need to dress up well (not overdo it!! eg if u are not suitable for mini skirt, then dun wear it)

u can't really decide yr looks, so the only thing to remedy is through yr dress sense, it helps, start dolling up, dresses, skirts, whatever suits u

 

u just don't understand don't you

Originally posted by 00king00:

true, dressing up won't transform u into a super hot gal

but dat's not the pt, u still need to dress up well (not overdo it!! eg if u are not suitable for mini skirt, then dun wear it)

u can't really decide yr looks, so the only thing to remedy is through yr dress sense, it helps, start dolling up, dresses, skirts, whatever suits u

 

agreed agreed, dressing up appropriately does help

We live in an age in which almost everyone thinks that slim is beautiful.

You know.. Screw those social norms, dogma and whatever values they try to impose on you.. Start building yourself from within and you'll find it easier to be confident..

Love yourself.

Thts the best thing u can do.

Originally posted by Vendettus:

Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

It's not that you're "ugly", it's just that people have not learnt to appreciate you. Do you know that women that're generally bigger in size are preferred over petite women in ancient China? The Chinese believed that having a bigger body (hence a bigger set of hips) is vital for childbirth.

Apparently, beauty deviated so much that it has become a norm for one to be stick-like in order to be classified as a 'beauty'.

I recommend you watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OXf8fr0Kp3Q.

well said. if you have self confidence, the beauty will shine through. try to dress up a little sometimes. those glamour girls you meet, you wont believe the amt of time they spend on dressing up. love yourself my dear.

gal, try grooming urself..

try to dress up nicely, put make up. sure make alot diff..

ive seen those below average gal with make up, and they seems not bad..

im sure u r far more better than tat..

hi hopeless,

 

There is no ugly girl but lazy girl.

First of all you need to know where is your problem. Like what you said is your big in build..

so what i can suggest to you maintain a low protein diet with high fibers meals. Less carbonhydrates. No tibits and soft drink only plain water and fruits. Tone up your body..Look lean but not big.

And before you start out with any program weight yourself, measure the area where you want to burn to keep lean.

 

And set how much to reduce. example 10kg and set a target of duration example 5 kg => 1 month, 10kg => 2months.

Control yourself to keep to your diet and excerise prog.

 

When you are more confident, go shopping for sexy top.. like singlet and bare shoulder top which can show off your nice tone shoulder.

Get some skirt and sandals.. will make you simple and pretty.

 

 

Originally posted by Vendettus:

Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

Read this, and try to understand to the best you can about it.

just be optimistic, u must believe you can change your appearance... you won't be hopeless!

Originally posted by hopeless_:

hi. i am a girl who has been visiting this forum regularly. decided to come and post about my troubles..

i am a bigger build girl and i am below average looks. from young, i have always been bullied and called names such as 'ugly' etc.

from then on, i have never ever had confidence in myself. especially when talking to attractive girls or guys as i feel inferior to them. no idea how to improve myself..

whenever i see them, i feel that i don't belong to this world, and like the world is cut out for smaller build people..

can someone tell me how to gain confidence in myself?

so u jz bigger build n not fat rite?

U obviously are mixing ard with wrong bunch of pple.  Change ur grp of frenz who appreciate u bcos of ur virtues w/o magnifyin ur flaws.  The right grp of pple will encourage u & help u to build up ur confidence levels (by improvin wat u think tat makes u low confidence).

Of cos, u r the key person.  If u are not determined to improve urself, even the right grp of frens cannot help u much.

U shld trust me, cos i have been there, done that.  v

Originally posted by hopeless_:

hi. i am a girl who has been visiting this forum regularly. decided to come and post about my troubles..

i am a bigger build girl and i am below average looks. from young, i have always been bullied and called names such as 'ugly' etc.

from then on, i have never ever had confidence in myself. especially when talking to attractive girls or guys as i feel inferior to them. no idea how to improve myself..

whenever i see them, i feel that i don't belong to this world, and like the world is cut out for smaller build people..

can someone tell me how to gain confidence in myself?

Why now so many of them need to gain confidence? I thought that only happens when a guy wants to propose to his loved gal????

From ur post, u give me an impression that "ni bu ai zi ji"......When looks concern, someone can say"ni bu mei" but you must not say that 2 urself!!! Even at time when i hit 68kg mark, i also feel "wo shi mei de". 

As long as u hav 1 pair of eyes, 1 nose, 1 mouth. U are a normal gal / person. Bigger build girl? How big build is big? How small is small? 50kg 165cm is small? 70kg 165cm is big?

If u think u are big? fat? blah blah..... Go n do something. Run, breeze walk, swim, join big walk, great eastern run, shape run etc...

Rich enough, go to nutritionist, plan ur diet well.

Dun be a loner, go n join group outing, meet for people from diff class of society.

Dun know where to buy XXL, XXXXL clothes. Let me know, I can bring u.

If u need an exercise buddy, I am always there........... Jia You.

 

 

 

 

Originally posted by BrUtUs:

so u jz bigger build n not fat rite?

well, i am about 168cm and about 65kg. about close to overweight.. yups.

hello everyone. thanks for all the wonderful comments. i feel more encouraged.

as for slimming down, i have tried to slim down but i don't really know how to go about doing it. once, i tried running every morning but i only managed to clear 2 kg like in 2 months? is that slow?

Originally posted by hopeless_:

well, i am about 168cm and about 65kg. about close to overweight.. yups.

Oh, wtf?!

Average weight for 168cm is < 65kg lor.... 

U too harsh on urself le ba?

okay.. why not you date me?